How to be ok with going on lots of first dates

So I had my first date off of match.com last week... and it was fine. We had a nice lunch, he called me two days later, very standard sort of thing.

He looked like his pictures, he was polite and it was fine... that's all fine.

But I don't think that just fine is good enough. And that's what I think a first date should tell you, this person should be better than fine. I should feel that if I give up more of my time, which is hard to come by, it should be great, it should be fun, it should at least be very nice. But not just fine.

I'm emailing someone I think might be great. We've just had a 20 minute phone conversation segueing into seeing each other after the holidays and the promise of another phone call... and I'm actually looking forward to it. That's what dating someone should be about, not just seeing someone because you had a fine time, and what the heck why not.

I'm tired of what the heck why not. And that's why I don't go on a lot of second dates. And that's why I am going to be ok with not going on second dates, and giving fine gentlemen an polite thanks, but no thanks.

More first dates to come..........