How to keep positive

When you're recovering from a broken heart, when you're looking for the one, or when you're just looking for someone to spend time with, you want every first date to be perfect.

Dating is fun, but it's hard, it's exhausting, and sometimes you need help.

So where do you look? To your friends and family? To CL? To match.com?

Yes to all of the above.

I went on my first date off of craigstlist over the weekend and 1. my head did not end up in a freezer on the Lower East Side and 2. It wasn't as bad as it could have been.

Now my date did not look like his photo... the photo was terrible enough to begin with so I figured how could it be worse... it was, but he bought me a drink and we had an hour of decent conversation, he really liked to tell me the intimate details of all his prior relationships, almost as if to prove to me that he was capable of getting laid on a regular basis... that was odd, but well what can you do? We parted ways and that's that. We won't be going out again.

I'm still looking through the CL personals but it's just a little too hit or miss, the creepy foot fetish party-going suga daddies are just too overwhelming for me to navigate though.

My father, after terrific success has recommended that I join match.com, I was hesitant about shelling out $125 to find the one, I mean there are 8 million people in NY on any given day, but what the heck, here's to a six month experiment, they've challenged me to find the love of my life. Whatever, I'm tired, and I need help, thanks dad.

I've found that the most important thing is to keep positive, to be proactive yes, but to also let it come to you. Tell the universe that you are looking, ask for help and see what happens. Don't be afraid, don't think you are "too good" for internet dating or "above" being set up on a blind date by your friends... It all takes time, stay positive and keep patient. Here's to finding love in six months, match.com guarantees is :)